A new study published in the journal Demography says parenting can have a significant impact on your happiness.
Statistics show that 73 percent of study participants experienced decreased levels of happiness after their first-born child, in comparison to 27 percent who responded they felt happier or no change at all.
The first child can have an unpleasant effect on some parents. It is believed that it could be worse than unemployment, divorce or the death of a partner.
Helen Fisher, biological anthropologist, at the Kinsey institute for Sex, Gender and Reproduction, said that the most important reason for this specific cause of unhappiness was the social isolation. People who had been previously close to the parents would leave them alone, figuring they would be too tired or too busy, said Dr. Fisher.
She explained that it wasn’t natural for a mother to raise a child all by herself. This would mean that the reason for the unhappiness is the time demands it raises on the mother. Other reasons can include exhaustion and sleep deprivation.
Moreover, the relationship between partners becomes increasingly difficult. Society nowadays puts its print on the fact that primary relationship is the most important things that one can experience. To be more precise, parents reported exhaustion due to depression, sleep deprivation, trouble breast-feeding, relationship breakdown and domestic isolation.
The allegiance dedicated to large communities, or God, or other factors is now directed at one person – the baby. The system begins to break down because of this, and parents may be losing almost everything that they previously enjoyed.
This means that parents become more and more family-centered, which plays a major part in the scientific findings. To reverse this aspect, local community can be regained, and even if the mother resorts to means of communication via phone, the Internet etc. there are no palpable feelings of connecting socially with her friends.
So, even if mothers with babies may just as well take refuge in building “communities” in parks and so on and so forth, they will all go home alone. They will all spend the rest of the day mostly by themselves.
Women who have recently given birth will also be concerned about work, as they will be concerned they would lose impetus at the office, for instance. There is a great deal of struggle.
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